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You will often hear it said that the first and most important rule
in B&D-S/M is that all things we do with each other must be safe,
sane, and consensual. What does this mean? Ask any set of
experienced players and you'll get a different set of answers.
SAFE SANE AND CONSENSUAL..
"Safe" means that we take care of each other as best we can, that no
matter how we want our scenes, however gentle or rough, we do them
in ways that do not injure our partners. "Safe" means that we take
the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases seriously and use our
best efforts to minimize those dangers. What can you do? Educate
yourself. Learn as much as you can so that you can do safe scenes.
Those means read books, take classes, and ask others about specific
techniques that interest you. Want to learn to use a cane? Ask an
expert. Want to swing a flogger? Practice first on a pillow. Whether
you're driving a car or tying somebody up, safety should always come
first. It's especially important to not let your desire rule your
good sense, so think about the specifics of your scenes outside of
the scene. "Don't think with your groin."
Power exchange is about trust -- trust that the person who has the
power in a scene will use it responsibly. If you are the Top then it
is up to you to use the power your Bottom has granted you in a
respectful and sane way. Your Bottom has given you a gift of trust,
and you are honor-bound to repay it with good judgment. If as the
Top you are so involved in your scene that you can't make good
judgments, then you are not in control of yourself, and you have no
business being in control of someone else. Sanity is about control,
and self-control comes first.
Everything that happens in a scene between people must be acceptable
to all concerned. If you aren't sure that your partner has
consented -- has said 'yes' -- then you need to talk until you are
sure. The best way to get to 'yes' is to make sure that 'no' is an
equally acceptable answer. This holds true in every situation,
whether asking someone for a phone number or negotiating a scene.
The less pressure you apply, the more likely that a 'yes' will come
and will be a sincere answer. It's dangerous to play with someone
who has said 'yes' for the wrong reasons. You can quickly end up in
a situation that is neither safe, sane, or consensual. To protect
against this, refrain from pressuring anyone, and if you feel you
are being pressured, set limits and stand by them. You should always
feel free to say 'no.' Consensual means that you are scening because
you want to, with someone who wants to, that everyone involved is
willing to go ahead with the scene. If you are in the least bit
unsure, stop and talk. The time to clarify consent is before a
scene, not after.
There are no entrance exams to pass to get into the community and
personal judgments vary. Anyone who has been around for more than a
little while has likely heard about someone who is reputed to be
unsafe, emotionally unstable, or who doesn't respect limits. You
should take these warnings seriously, but remember that such
judgments are necessarily subjective. Get second and third opinions
if you can. And if you find yourself in the position of wanting to
warn others about a player you feel is unsafe, be as objective as
you can, and give facts whenever possible. Let's take care of each
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